With our current restricted living and visiting, travelling and free will, and other life – inconveniences shifted on its head, there are different schools of thought about how to handle our lives, time, headspace…
How are you feeling about this isolation?
Take heart. It’s normal to feel a myriad of emotions and important to lean into your communities to support one another.
But today, I’d like to address the tension between being and doing during Covit times.
Have you asked yourself any of these questions below:
- Why is it difficult to get motivated, to do and be productive, and to blow the dust off the ‘one day I’d like to do this or that’ lists you may have from years ago?
- Have some of you had good intentions about utilizing this ‘time’? Maybe you told yourself you’d learn a new language, write a book, study a course, become a master chef, start a business, etc.?
- Have you compared yourself to others that seem to be crushing their to-do lists under these newer life conditions? Do you feel bad about you being you in this crisis? Are you envious of those handling this strange existence with more peace?
It’s difficult to wrap our heads around the complexity of this pandemic and how it’s affecting us moment to moment from a neutral and clear perspective.
Now add your unresolved wounds, baggage, limiting belief systems and maybe unresolved trauma to the mix. These act as the lenses of which we see and live life typically, but now add the dried dirt on our pandemic lenses, is there any wonder why there are so many people struggling and beating themselves up for not being or doing more? For feeling ‘off’?
I see some of your posts and hear some of your comments puzzled about why you can’t make yourself be and do as much as you think and feel you should.
I see you. I see you hurting and struggling to reckon your beingness with the outside influences and expectations of what could be while not knowing how to grieve the plans of what was and what will be? The worries about finances, relationships…
History will not judge you for being in survival mode for how productive you were during these times. But your psyche will remember and continue to wire in ways that help or hinder you in the long run.
There may not be a right or wrong way to live right now, but there is a KIND way.
The least productive thing you could do during these troubling times is to berate yourself for what you aren’t doing, how you are and keep high expectations leading to shame and disappointment.
SO WHAT’S THE SOLUTION?
The easiest yet maybe one of the hardest things to do is to stop searching for the “why’s” at least for now. There’s no good reason to keep your head spinning continuously.
Take a deep breath and ask yourself: “what do I need today”? And if it’s doable, you’ll find a way; if it isn’t possible, that’s ok.
Find your own flow.
Be kind to yourself and others, that’s how we are all going to survive on all levels.
Don’t restrain yourself from the love, support and understanding you need to give yourself and ask from others if and when needed.
If you are questioning whether you are worthy and good enough right now, remember when you would hug a friend to say hello or goodbye? Did you simply receive the hug, or did you only receive the hug based on your accomplishments of the day? I’m fairly certain, you were hugged because of affection, love, kindness and friendship. I’m sure they didn’t restrain a hug if you didn’t get that laundry done, study a new language, finish writing a book, etc.
If you are breathing
YOU ARE ENOUGH
Every day we are realigning to what our perceived reality will look like that day or even in the days coming. We are in a traumatic moment, acknowledge it.
Be truthful, honest and real with yourself and others.
Your authenticity will carry you through.
There is no wrong or right way to weather this time in history.
This is a new dawn of upping your inner trust game to be, do and feel as real and as naturally you for your own peace.
Take heart. You are ok. Be patient. Be kind to yourself.
And follow your INSPIRATION. If it’s light and fluffy like a delicious pancake, go for the pancake. Leave the rest.
With so much love and support,